About 3 years ago I decided that I was no longer going to hide my true self to those around me. I had told my closest friends that I liked girls. Some of them handled it pretty well and i got lots of love and support from them! My life long friend who’ve i’ve known since I was in diapers said she always knew I was. She was the most accepting and loving of them all. I also had a “friend” who wasn’t as accepting as the others. I say friend in quotes because ever since I came out to that person we started to drift apart. It made realized who my real friends were.
The hardest thing to deal with is knowing that not everyone accepts who you are. It took so long for me to truly accept who I really was and to stop hiding in what is considered “normal”. I’ve spent a lot of sleepless nights wishing I wasn’t the way I was. But one day I came to the realization that i was made this way for a reason. I didn’t wake up one day and was like im gonna like girls from now on. No I have always known since I was about 7 years old that I liked girls and I thought I wasn’t normal like everyone else. I fought for years to trying to change myself and make myself “better”.
Now that i have a total of like 3 friends i’ve realized that, that’s all i need. They love me for who i am. No matter what my sexual orientation is. They are always there for the good the bad and the ugly. I will forever be thankful for them because without them i’d go crazy.
Now the most difficult part and the one i’m dreading the most is telling my dad. My brother knows I like girls and he doesn’t quite understand what that means. But he loves me for who I am. He says i’ll always be his sister no matter what. I love him for that he’s always there for me. no matter how big our age gap is he’s my best friend who knows so much about me. He might not understand it all but he tries.
My mom, where do I begin I love that women to death. She had the hardest pregnancy with me. But we don’t see eye to eye. She is one hell of a women! I love her but she’s not very supporting . She brushes things off her shoulder she pretends that the little detail I told her doesn’t exist. She has a lot of friends in the LGBTQ community, which is why I thought she’d be the most supportive. But she was the complete opposite. She offers advice to her friends who come out to their parents. But she doesn’t do the same with her own daughter. It hurts me to know she doesn’t accept who I really am. But I hope one day she will.
Oh yeah and my dad you ask? He doesn’t know yet…
The hardest part is yet to come…
Maria Mercedes 